In understanding homosexuality, it is essential to go beyond the common explanations that it is love needs that have not been met, or a defensive detachment from the same-sex parent. These are starting points or catalysts, but they are not what homosexuality really is. Homosexuality is what grows out of the ungodly reaction to not having love needs met, and just giving love will not avail because our responses are twisted. Love can become dependency, we sexualize love, we want to control love, or we have no place for love.
It is truly eye-opening to see the strong statements in the Bible about the power of the tongue and the import of what we say on our lives. I suppose we should not be surprised, given the fact that God spoke the world into existence, and we, being made in His image, speak our world into existence. The most powerful words to shape our lives is our confession of faith in Jesus Christ as the Son of God and our personal Savior. This makes us a new creation in Christ, who comes to dwell in us.