In understanding homosexuality, it is essential to go beyond the common explanations that it is love needs that have not been met, or a defensive detachment from the same-sex parent. These are starting points or catalysts, but they are not what homosexuality really is. Homosexuality is what grows out of the ungodly reaction to not having love needs met, and just giving love will not avail because our responses are twisted. Love can become dependency, we sexualize love, we want to control love, or we have no place for love.
In the great eighth chapter of Romans, which is the solution to St. Paul's wrestling with his sin in chapter seven, we see a profound truth. It is that those who live according to the flesh and are controlled by its unholy desires, set their minds on and pursue those things which gratify the flesh. But those who are according to the Spirit and are controlled by the desires of the Spirit, set their minds on and seek those things which gratify the Holy Spirit. So the life of the Spirit requires a mind change.