Freedom from Fantasy and Masturbation
By Joanne Highley
Though we have a best-selling tape on this important subject, there are some further revelations that must be put forth. There is confusion about fantasy and masturbation because of ignorance on the part of teachers who teach this practice can be done by Christians to relieve stress or on the mutual consent of a married couple. We have found much to the contrary in the Scriptures. Let us look first at what fantasy/ masturbation is.
Fantasy is Satan's counterfeit for God's vision. This means the thoughts of one who fantasizes sexually are taking much time in the brain of the person which should be used to think on God's truth and hear His Voice about the vision of His will for us without which we perish.
Fantasy is looking on a person to lust after him or her. Jesus said, "If you look at a woman (or man) lustfully, you have already committed adultery in your heart." (Matthew 5:28) So looking at a person lustfully whether in our minds or in person is sinful. We must confess that sin and be cleansed. We do not take fantasy seriously enough to cause us to confess it as sin every time we do it. But Jesus said it is serious enough that we should pluck out our eye or cut off our hands that cause us to sin. This does not mean amputation of the parts because you could remove the eye and the hand and still lust. It is the redemption of the eye, the hand, the mind and the heart that God desires. Realize the seriousness of ungodly sexual activity. It will keep you out of the Kingdom of God if you do not turn from it. Fantasy is a foot in that door.
However, we must remind you that God is very understanding and patient. He understands that you have used this practice to ease the ungodly reactions to pain that you suffered in childhood. But He knows also how harmful it is to you to continue to use your sexuality in this distorted way. It plays into Satan's hand to steal, kill and destroy you. So do not be afraid and give yourself stress over this, but do work seriously to uproot the emotions and lies that hold this destructive activity in place. You can have victory over it and you must go on into that freedom. Working on this will help you uproot old emotions that have held you back in many ways since fantasy/masturbation covers the emotions and renders them inaccessible to you.
Fantasy is defiling another person's body in your mind. It is a form of sexual abuse on a covert plane. We are not to look on nakedness unless you are looking on your own spouse's body after marriage.
Fantasy keeps ungodly sexual desire on a low-simmer ready to flare up into lustful activity. The body is not yielded to God but to Satan for his uses. In the same way (as Christ died) count yourselves dead to sin but alive to God in Christ. Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its evil desire. Do not offer the parts of your body to sin as instruments of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life and offer the parts of your body to Him as instruments of righteousness. For sin shall not be your master, because you are not under law but under grace." (Romans 6:11-14)
In fantasy we are regarding a person according to the flesh or from a worldly point of view. (II Corinthians 5:16) The person's looks, his clothes, his muscles or eyes, hair or sex organs. All of this must be put away. We are to see a person as a new creation in Christ if he or she is saved and as some- one in need of a Savior if not saved.
Fantasy takes you into a place of unreality. Unreality is Satan's turf. He loves to have you stay in unreality so his lies can look good to you. Unreality makes you think you feel better but you are really just cutting off the reality that you are in a worse condition because you are deceived by his lies.
When we add masturbation to fantasy we are now joining in with more unreality and twisting our sexual perceptions by having sex with ourselves but imagining sex with another person. This seriously distorts our God-given sexual design. Sex is to be, as created by God, a two-party joining to make one flesh. This is a spiritual symbol of Oneness as ordained by God. Jesus spoke of this in His prayer to His Father just before His arrest. "My prayer is not for them alone (His disciples). I pray also for those who will believe in Me through their message, that all of them may be one, Father, just as You are in Me and I am in You. May they also be in Us so that the world may believe that You have sent Me. I have given them the glory that You gave Me that they may be one and We are one. I in them and You in Me. May they be brought to complete unity to let the world know that You sent Me and have loved them even as You have loved Me. (John 17:20-23) To distort this perfect concept by fantasy/masturbation is to harm yourself, society and God's plan for His children to be pure in their sexual practice and their perception of oneness.
We are made to honor God with our bodies. You are not your own, you are bought at a price---the sacrifice of Jesus on the Cross paid the price for our sin. The body was not made for sexual immorality but for the Lord. Our bodies after salvation are members of Christ Himself. We must not join the members of Christ, our bodies, in ungodly sexual union. When you do that, you become one flesh with the person, but in a demonic union counterfeiting God's design for marriage, and producing death --not life.
After reading and thinking about these truths, sit down with God to look at the underlying emotions that lead you to fantasy/masturbation. Do you feel hope- less? Do you feel like a victim? Do you feel God does not care or is mad at you? Do you think you are so bad you are beyond His cleansing and forgiving? Do you feel this temptation is just too strong to resist? Whatever your emotion is that drives the fantasy, it is the lie of Satan, a deception to hold you in this bondage and keep you away from God. There is always hope in God. He will do what He has promised. But we must go through pain to get to the hope because it was ungodly reaction to pain that brought us here. You can have victory over this sin. State out loud that you do not want it anymore. Renounce it and ask God to strengthen you to resist the emotional lies and evil desires. He will be with you and give you strength to do this. It will not happen at once but He will give you victory as you fight against the schemes of the devil. He wants you to learn to fight and stand so it will not be immediate but over a period of writing about your ungodly emotional reactions and turning from them as well as resisting the fantasy/masturbation. God loves you with an everlasting love and wants you to believe He is with you and is working for your freedom right beside you. You cannot do anything bad enough that His cleansing blood will not restore you to righteousness as you confess your sin. There is a way of escape for every temptation. Get rid of fantasy/masturbation and go on into God's vision for your life and His provision for every need and sweet fellowship with Him.